Hustle, Hustle, Hustle….we’ve been conditioned to think that if we hustle, things will get better, quicker! Did you know that “overnight successes” can take up to 10 years to become that?
I hustle, hustle, hustled myself into a hospital because I was so worried that if I didn’t, I’d never reach what I expected of myself & business, by an acceptable age.
At almost 50, I’ve finally learned a gross amount of information that contradicts the Hustle game.
First off, WHY? Why are we hustling? If it is to do what was mentioned above, you are doing it for the wrong reasons. The reasons I had were external reasons. They all had something to do with how people saw me. What would they think if I was “trying another business” & it failed? Who placed an age limit on my success? & who defined it? Hustling is for others to see that you are doing something….isn’t that right? Why would I care who sees me? It’s the result that counts the most.
So , I no longer am a “hustler”. I’m an action & results taker. I take strategic actions that will boost my results. Then when people see that, they see that. There’s no time frame. There’s no definition. There’s no “ha ha, I knew she couldn’t do it”.
Because it’s about my clients & what they deem as success & what results they are getting.
With all that, I’m happy to announce that I am a recovering perfectionist. I’m not cured, but I strive. I do that by letting go of the things I’m not in charge of. If I delegate something & it is done incorrectly, I simply talk with the individual it was delegated to. I don’t demean them by asking why, or other toddler questions. I have learned to talk respectfully to another person who may not understand things the way they were explained, because we all have different points of view. Then it gets taken care of.
I also don’t internalize other people’s issues anymore. I don’t dwell on what I should have done, or said. I don’t let issues spin in my head for weeks, taking up valuable rental space. I no longer allow people to manipulate me & view their choices as just that. Their choices. There will always be consequences to our choices, whether they are good or bad, is up to us. If I have a client who has made a mess of something, we say “so what, now what” (something valuable I learned from Loral Langemeier) we learn what we shouldn’t do & pivot. But I no longer acknowledge when someone is trying to bait me, to manipulate something.
All of these things I see as “self care” (massages don’t hurt every once in a while either!). Because they help me to work at my highest capacity. They allow me to move forward quickly & efficiently in my businesses. I give attention to the things I deem important & while I think it’s ridiculous to say “I don’t hang with negative people, or want them in my life”, I choose to be that light if they need it.
As you can see, I don’t necessarily think that doing all the things, is “self care”, i.e hanging out with my girlfriends, or the mani pedi’s (although those are still fun!), for me, self care has been sloughing off the unrealistic expectations I had, letting go of perfectionism & not taking on other’s manipulation.
So I guess you could say my new “hustling” is to fill my mind with hope, fill my calendar with amazing clients & to fill their lives with possibilities!
